When we’re younger and still living with our parents, we don’t have much say as to how our life pans out. Our parents are in charge of buying the food, choosing and paying for our yearly back-to-school outfits and having the final say on our curfew, boyfriends, friends and the typical do’s and don’ts. But, as we grow up and gain independence, we may take that great leap and move out, get our own apartment and start our own real adult lives. Yes, it may be scary as hell, but the best part is: we’re in charge! The freedom is sweet, the bills are not, but here, in this article, I’ll show you the best ways to finally accept your new adult-status and live the life that you’ve always wanted. No parental supervision required.
Take charge of your financial situation
Being broke during one of the most exciting periods of our life is not ideal, but with student loans and newfound financial independence, it is to be expected. To help you take charge of your current financial woes, you must be willing to take the time and figure out a budget that works for you. There truly is no better time to start looking onward to the future and getting into the habit of solidifying your financial freedom. You want a plan that will help you curb unnecessary spending, create savings and still leave a bit of wiggle room to splurge on those fabulous heels. There are a ton of books available on the topic, written specifically for us twenty-somethings such as Alexa Von Tobel’s new book, Financially Fearless. Alexa is the Founder and CEO of LearnVest.com and a monthly columnist for Cosmopolitan magazine.
Take charge of your social life
Yes, you may be busy with school or getting a jump start on your career, but it’s vital that you take time to spend with your friends. Having a strong social circle will help you unwind, release those feel-good hormones and strengthen social skills that will prove useful in many careers and networking events. Plan weekly or monthly girls nights with your friends or, if that’s not possible due to location, keep in touch through Skype and regular phone contact.
Take charge of your relationships
I’ve written plenty of articles on this topic, so I’m hoping you’re becoming an expert on it, too. If you have the time to date during your twenties, I say go for it—life’s too short and whether it’s just a short-term relationship or one that is meant to last, have the attitude of taking chances and not regretting missed opportunities which could have led you to the one.
Take charge of your style
When you’re in high school, it can be difficult to express yourself through your style in fear that other’s will judge you. I remember being afraid to wear high heels to school because I thought that people would think I was trying too hard. But now that I’m older, I realize that I don’t care what people think and I choose to dress for myself, not others. If I want to wear bright red lipstick and heeled boots, I will and I’ll strut my stuff in the process. The goal is to finally take charge and live life for yourself and that includes a style that fully embodies you.
Take charge of your home
Since you’re no longer surrounded by the hideous carpet and creepy dolls that your mom likes to keep around the house, it’s your chance to dress up your new digs in a way that is fitting and cozy (not creepy) for you. Use your personal interior style as your guide to help you choose the best paint colours, furniture and cozy personal touches such as candles or picture frames. If money does inhibit a lot of these choices, go the DYI route and get creative. Pinterest, as always, is one of the best websites for fun, but budget-wise projects.
Take charge of you
Last, but certainly not least, you must take charge of yourself. We all know ourselves best, so taking care of your physical and mental well-being can be customized in a plan according to your own personal routines. An example to give you some ideas is my daily care for myself—I’ve recently adopted a six-week running lifestyle, which I will post a blog about soon. I work out regularly and do a daily relaxation tape to keep worry and anxiety at bay, and I make sure to save plenty of time to relax, focus on myself and my relationships with my boyfriend, friends and family.