When a relationship ends, it’s usually the guy who seems to disappear off the face of the earth. Homeboy stops texting, calling and visiting your former favorite date-night spots. While not all men disappear or want nothing to do with you, most men do partake in a few common ex-boyfriend behaviours that could a) mess with your mind (that’s a given) or b) make you miss him even more.
Here are a few of the tell-tale signs from ex-boyfriends and a few tips on how to deal with them.
He’ll ask to hook up
If your ex-boyfriend isn’t getting it from girls in da club, you can bet that he’ll be crawling back to you with the line, “For old times sake.” If he does, run! It’s obvious that he simply wants a booty call and, unless he wants to get back together, you’re better off not wasting your time.
He’ll go on a date and tell you about it
Whether he’s trying to make you jealous or simply being plain rude, there’s definitely a reason behind him sharing his “first date” story to you… his ex-girlfriend. See the problem here? The quick fix for this, if it really does bother you (especially when you’re the one who got dumped), is to be straight-up and tell him to refrain from sharing these details.
He’ll ask and compare himself to your new boyfriend or rebound
After any relationship, it’s hard to stop yourself from wondering if he has moved on already. If you’ve blocked him off social media, there’s a chance you’ll seek out your mutual friends to get information. If you have moved on (yay you!) and he finds out, your ex-boyfriend may internally compare himself to your new guy and even ask questions, usually involving his, uh, performance.
He’ll want to speak on the phone or hang out
The most obvious of signs. If your ex-boyfriend asks to speak on the phone or hang out, there’s a strong chance he misses you and potentially even wants to get back together. If you’re ready, answer the call, but let him lead the conversation—find out why he’s calling you.